Possesiveness

I hate it!!!
How many popular songs and movies have been about possesion rather than love!!! Most of the channels have "you're mine" theme running on.

You do share a bond and each other. It's sharing; not owning each other. A few people dont understand that. I read somewhere "A relationship grows only with spaces in between" . Its such a wonderful, deep and true summary in a one liner.

Possesive are those who dont trust others. Be it friends or girl/boy friends. They think trust and the bond stems from possesiveness which is completely selfish. There is a thin line between sharing and owning. You ask where a person had been to & with whom is sharing. Asking exact details is owning. People dont understand this "The more you try to be close, the further you go away." And when people do go far away they feel like "People change so fast."

People want to stamp their sweetheart with their name, instead of stamping themselves with their sweetheart's name. How long do such relations last??? As long as either both individuals are possesive about each other or one of them ready to be owned by the other. This is not just a affair or romantic relation I am talking about but all relations in general; be it friends or siblings or whatever.

Possesiveness and trust never go hand -in -hand.If you are possesive and dont allow space how do you expect the opposite person to be true to you? If he isnt true, how can you trust him? Who's at fault? The person who lied or the person who, in first place compelled the opposite individual to lie?

Possesiveness can not be named as CARING. Possesiveness is just plain ....Possesiveness!!! how can you call not letting a tear drop from eye as possesiveness.No way!!! And the biggest justification for possesion is "Possesion is different from obsession." The fact is obsession is just a stronger version of possesion.

As I said before a relation means sharing and not owning {Doesnt possesion mean owning?check Oxford}. You do have a right to interfere and ask somebody to justify his/her act but you cant take decisions for them or comply them to take decisions which please you...

You lose out not only on a relation but also a name in the list of your 4am friends!!! Why cant people understand such a simple logic?

All set to go!!!

• Admissions (Check)
• Visa (Check)
  Shopping (Check)

All that is left is flying to Unites States of America!!! Ok Ok...Dun worry.This is not yet another blog on the experiences during the entire procedure while apply for masters in engineering or advices regarding how to go on with the procedure. This is just a post about how excited I am to go there and how I am feeilng right now. Visa was a terrible experience! Although I got through within half a minute but the entire thing was nervy. If my interview wouldn't have come for another half an hour I would have had a Cardiac Arrest for sure.

I am feeling ecstatic at the moment. All excited to stay on my own. Finding room mates, talking to them over the phone, trying to find apartments, etc is all so fun.When two people with same passion come together, they have a blast of a time. Imagine around 30 people meeting for the so called "University meets" where the agenda decided was apartments, roomies etc but the thing actually discussed was nuthing. All excited to go THE STATES. All trying to know each other, make friends. It feels like first day of junior college. All dressed and behaving to their best, trying to leave behind a big impression.

Next up is relatives. Everybody wants to meet you and invite you at their place for lunch, dinner and then praise you in front of their children as to show what a big deal it is to go to United states {or to show them the geek who is going to the US.Whatever!!! Who cares as long as you get good deserts}. Calls all day round congratulating and wishing all the luck and giving advices here and there. Right from what to do once you enter the flight till what kind of friends you should have {Oh!!! come on....(I do appreciate the concern, however)}. Distant relatives who havent called up in years call up and talk as if there has been no communication gap at all...It feels like you are RICH!!! I am just basking in the glory {Of what???} and enjoying the attention that everyone is showering.

The list of "LASTS." This is one amazing and excellent way of emotionally blacmailing people. "This is my last birthday in India, dad. Please buy me ...." or "This is your last Holi here. So you better come along rather then goin with your family" {No prizes to guess who would say this}. Lats birthdays, Last valentines, Last holi/Diwali all since Last Year...Ohh forgot to mention Last 31st.... The flipside is people around you will also use the same things on you. But worth it!!!

Its one hell of time that I am having here. I guess pre-departure is all more fun then post departure. I guess it stays this way forever!!!